Loving yourself is an inside job, literally...there is no other way around it. Years of self hate, criticism, I'm not good enough, I'm less than, and I'm worthless are symptoms of the self hate "disease". The "disease" makes us feel like a victim, and somehow convinces us that we are wrong to think any other way...after all aren't we all supposed to be extremely hard on ourselves and never cut ourselves any slack? If this sounds like you then you've contracted the "disease".
Loving means feeling, showing, or indicating love and affection. Just like how you feel, show, indicate love for your cat, dog, spouse, mom, etc...you need to do the same for yourself. Its very easy to say, "yeah of course I love myself", but do you really? When was the last time you complimented yourself? When was the last time you said, "I love my body"? When was the last time you actually told yourself, "I love you"? Little daily practices like such will not only help to build up your self-esteem, but also your self-love. Now it won't be an overnight process, but remember its more important to have patience and do the work necessary.
I am a "victim" of this disease too and I know what its like to hate yourself. Years and years of convincing myself that I am not better than or I am less than this person, not having the confidence to look at someone in the eye when I spoke, or crying myself to sleep at night because of how miserable I felt. The bottom line to all my symptoms was I had convinced myself that I was meant to be this way and it constantly consumed my mind. I decided to dig deeper inside myself to focus on how I feel when I hate myself, when I worry and when I disrespect myself. How do I feel? I don't feel good. Then I thought about how I feel when I when I'm smiling, inspired and content? I feel good. So wouldn't I want to feel good at all times? Yes! Just force a smile and it will instantly make you feel better.
My go to way of easing the pain of self hate is counting to ten and as I breathe out saying, "I release this negativity". This provides more clarity and calm.
Everyone has the potential to love yourself and you are who you are...its about learning to embrace that, and truly believing it. Believing in yourself is loving yourself, and when you've accepted that you are unstoppable. Start your day with saying thank you & I love you to yourself. It shows the appreciation and respect you have. Surround yourself with images, quotes, people that bring you joy, support and inspire you, they will be your guide on the path of self love to ultimately one day loving yourself.
Oct 4, 2012
Manifestation
I know I am not the only one has heard the word manifestation. We all probably first heard the term from the book, The Secret. Now I must admit, I thought it was a bunch of baloney; however, I have decided to give this word some insight.
What does Manifesting mean?
"Acquiring the experience of what it is you want to feel, and living in that experience, and then allowing that experience to come into form" - Gabrielle Bernstein
You are co-creating with the Universe, there are no such things as coincidences. Miracles occur naturally, and when they don't something has gone wrong.
"Oh, I was thinking about that and it showed up"....thats how life is supposed to be. We get in the way, our limiting beliefs, our negative belief systems, fears, anxiety, our anger towards the past, our future tripping, All of this energy gets in the way of miracles to occur naturally. Therefore, we never realize all the abundance and good that is around....hence manifestation sounds like bulls***t.
How to Manifest?
1. Clarity, get clear of what is that you want.
2. Get clear about the limiting beliefs, negative beliefs that are blocking you...preventing manifestation from happening. Clean up your crap....believe in yourself.
Believe it, and be faithful to your belief. Do work that is needed to lease all those limiting beliefs (this will probably take some time...have patience).
Look at how you are blocking yourself (we are speaking mentally here), and trust what the Universe/God will give you to tackle those limiting beliefs...they've got your back.
3. Healing....working on releasing the disbelief will be a daily process. The more we let go of the belief, the more we feel what it feels to be in the present of the manifestation.
"You cannot let your outside world dictate your internal condition, the outside world will reflect your internal condition"
- Gabrielle Bernstein
If you are letting the outside world tell you you're not good enough then its a manifestation mishap...your allowing yourself to co-create that. The goal here to focus on the internal (on you).
4. Patience...
"Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety"
- A Course in Miracles
Have that presence of being certain then we can allow, be in the know, be patient.
If you want to learn more about this, then watch this video {here}.
Start with loving yourself...believing in yourself...cutting the crap out of your life...then just do life.
What does Manifesting mean?
"Acquiring the experience of what it is you want to feel, and living in that experience, and then allowing that experience to come into form" - Gabrielle Bernstein
You are co-creating with the Universe, there are no such things as coincidences. Miracles occur naturally, and when they don't something has gone wrong.
"Oh, I was thinking about that and it showed up"....thats how life is supposed to be. We get in the way, our limiting beliefs, our negative belief systems, fears, anxiety, our anger towards the past, our future tripping, All of this energy gets in the way of miracles to occur naturally. Therefore, we never realize all the abundance and good that is around....hence manifestation sounds like bulls***t.
How to Manifest?
1. Clarity, get clear of what is that you want.
2. Get clear about the limiting beliefs, negative beliefs that are blocking you...preventing manifestation from happening. Clean up your crap....believe in yourself.
Believe it, and be faithful to your belief. Do work that is needed to lease all those limiting beliefs (this will probably take some time...have patience).
Look at how you are blocking yourself (we are speaking mentally here), and trust what the Universe/God will give you to tackle those limiting beliefs...they've got your back.
3. Healing....working on releasing the disbelief will be a daily process. The more we let go of the belief, the more we feel what it feels to be in the present of the manifestation.
"You cannot let your outside world dictate your internal condition, the outside world will reflect your internal condition"
- Gabrielle Bernstein
If you are letting the outside world tell you you're not good enough then its a manifestation mishap...your allowing yourself to co-create that. The goal here to focus on the internal (on you).
4. Patience...
"Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety"
- A Course in Miracles
Have that presence of being certain then we can allow, be in the know, be patient.
If you want to learn more about this, then watch this video {here}.
Start with loving yourself...believing in yourself...cutting the crap out of your life...then just do life.
Oct 2, 2012
The rest is just sand
When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24
hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2
cups of coffee.
hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2
cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in
front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very
large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf ball
s. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very
large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf ball
s. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the
jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas
between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar
was full. They agreed it was.
jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas
between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar
was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if
the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if
the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous “yes.”
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table
and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the
empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the
empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
“Now,” said the professor as the laughter subsided, “I want you to
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things–your family, your children, your health, your
friends and your favorite passions–and if everything else was lost
and only they remained, your life would still be full.
recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the
important things–your family, your children, your health, your
friends and your favorite passions–and if everything else was lost
and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house
and your car.
and your car.
The sand is everything else–the small stuff. “If you put the sand
into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles
or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time
and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things
that are important to you.
into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles
or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time
and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things
that are important to you.
“Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play
with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your
spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to
clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls
first–the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is
just sand.”
with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your
spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to
clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls
first–the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is
just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee
represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked.
represented. The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked.
It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,
there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”
there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”
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